fallout from "the gay bomb"
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metaphorgeInspired by the discussion here:
[Poll #1000850]
My thoughts: of course it is... with the use of extreme enough conditioning techniques, you can condition almost anyone into almost anything (note: this is not saying that it is necessarily easy or ethical to do so).
Making a statement such as "sexual orientation is not changeable" vastly oversimplifies the matrices of to whom and what and why we're attracted to an offensively cartoonish degree.
Just because something about a person can be altered does not mean that it should be.
I vehemently disagree with the tactic of defending equality for queer people on the grounds of "I was born this way, I can't help it." Why do we need to argue that we have justification to fuck whatever person in whatever way we choose as long as all parties are both consenting and qualified to give consent?
We don't need to apologize and we aren't broken. Our orientations don't have to be carved into our genes for us to get to be who we are. This is just the sort of essentialist thinking that is the root of almost all oppression.
I am not a victim of being queer.
Wow, OMFG, I made an LJ post with actual content.
[Poll #1000850]
My thoughts: of course it is... with the use of extreme enough conditioning techniques, you can condition almost anyone into almost anything (note: this is not saying that it is necessarily easy or ethical to do so).
Making a statement such as "sexual orientation is not changeable" vastly oversimplifies the matrices of to whom and what and why we're attracted to an offensively cartoonish degree.
Just because something about a person can be altered does not mean that it should be.
I vehemently disagree with the tactic of defending equality for queer people on the grounds of "I was born this way, I can't help it." Why do we need to argue that we have justification to fuck whatever person in whatever way we choose as long as all parties are both consenting and qualified to give consent?
We don't need to apologize and we aren't broken. Our orientations don't have to be carved into our genes for us to get to be who we are. This is just the sort of essentialist thinking that is the root of almost all oppression.
I am not a victim of being queer.
Wow, OMFG, I made an LJ post with actual content.
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Date: 2007-06-11 04:10 am (UTC)All of this was before I really became consciously aware of sexuality vis gender roles. But when I was about 9 I discovered that my "Uncle Chris" (a friend of my mother's from her graduate program) was gay. My response was...oh, that's interesting. (Ironically my not-being-weirded-out-ness so weirded HIM out that that was the last we saw of him. Ah well.) And then there was Uncle Don and Uncle Joe, who my parents just treated like any other married couple, so it never occurred to me to wonder but that such combinations existed.
This is not to say I've never found men attractive, but I've never really fantasized about men, nor have I ever really been driven to.
Saw a pre-op MTF with really well done breasts have sex with a woman in a porn film once. I wasn't repulsed but I wasn't turned on. Never really watched any all-male, so no data there.